23rd oct 2012 17:17, she was born. Hubby went outstation to Thailand, and he planned to come back end of oct, then we can go shop for his IT gadget together, and I requested for Korean BBQ, we have so many things in plan since her edd was on nov 8th. LOL, among all the possibilities we talked about, one came true-she can't wait to see us. Luckily we did count whether the time is sufficient for him to get back once I notify him, and the timing was perfect.
A few days before D day, I noticed my bowel movement became more frequent. Almost after every meal. I took this as early signal. But how early? Im not sure. I let hubby know as I noticed, coincidently, he finally decided to pack his things for any emergency on 22nd night. We chatted through FaceTime after he done his packing, then I felt regular surges, steadily I told him:"I'm not sure is it a true alarm, let me confirm first then only you fly back." I continued reading hypnobirthing book, listening to relaxing music, and as time goes on, I get more excited. I knew she is coming. That was a sleepless night, due to my over excitement. At 6am, surges were 15-30mins apart, I gave him the CALL.
Had breakfast as usual, but i couldn't hold the excitement. So i Told two of my besties, one was very worried and hushed me to admit in hospital immediately, another one was worried as well but chose to trust my decision. I decided to not let any other people know, to save the consolation work. Watched Obama vs Romney 2nd round of debate live. Lol. Ermm, bloody show at 10sth. YouTube relaxation music as background, I slept through the surges.
Hubby's flight at 12pm bkk time, estimated to reach home at 4pm. I told my girl, daddy is coming back, wait for him k? I guess she decided its not the right time yet, the surges did not progress further, 10mins apart. I had my own sweet time, cooked and had lunch. Continued sleeping, with the help of music and breath of course. After I bathed and packed things, I noticed surges were just 3mins apart... Hmm, it's 3pm.. Can I still wait for hubby?
Decided to make my way to hospital first. Sms hubby and asked him to head directly to hospital. At the registration counter, I told them I'm in labor, 3mins apart, they asked me back: are you sure you're in labor? I can walk, but they insisted to put me on wheelchair, awkward feel~ sent to labor room but all occupied, so I was wheeled downstairs to meet dr haw. He did VE, 6cm dilated. I told him VE is more painful than surges..
So I waited for labor room, then I was strapped for EFM. I stated in my birth plan to do only the compulsory monitoring and we agreed it would not last longer than 20 mins. But the nurses on duty were too busy that day, they didn't acknowledge. Oh my.... Laid still for 40 mins was no joke, I started to feel bad. Hubby arrived at 4pm, quickly he helped to call the nurse to release me. After being released, I was okay again. We both chit chatted, timed the surges together. Aiks?! Still 3mins apart? Okok, then he talked to my girl: daddy is here d, if you're ready then can come out d.
Amazingly, surges progressed to 2mins apart. In between surges we still laughed, and I asked him to give me a piece of toblerone dark chocolate. After 2 bites, surges get intense, 1min, I passed the choc back to him, tried to find the most comfortable position. I squatted on the floor, feeling she's on her way. As I told hubby this feeling, he said he spotted hair! As Dr came in, I made my way back on bed and in all-four position, yawned with each surge, then I felt the burning sensation down there~ crowning! I laughed when I felt her body passing through (feel itchy :-p).
Her tiny body was handed to me the next second, Skin-to-skin. I was extremely happy, said my first halo to her. My memory is blur: was cord clamped by hubby first or I delivered the placenta first? Hehe, too focused on her. I passed her to half naked hubby for bonding while nurses helped me with cleaning. Waterbag was broken as she made her way out, total mess on bed. Then she latched for the first time. We were left alone to enjoy our very moment.
I couldn't sleep in the first night with her, keep looking at her, bugging her to latch on every now and then.. The excitement lingered on. Without medical interventions, I stayed energetic after birth, I can walk as usual with the natural tear and the wound healed completely by itself in two weeks. Enjoyable birth. ^.^
This is our birthplan that was submitted and approved by Dr Haw Wan Lye from Columbia Asia Cheras Selatan. He is a pro-natural obgyn and I like him very much for being supportive. The listed requirements differ from standard hospital procedures and you can conduct a research on your own to find out the underlying pros and cons. Yes, you can undergo vaginal birth but that doesn't mean the birth is natural. Read more from variable source and you will find this is true.
This is our choice of birth and we believe without all the medical interventions, we are trying our very best to provide the most comfortable environment to welcome our baby. We hope she feels safe coming to the world, build her fundamental trust from the very first moment she arrives.
Parents’ Name : Choo Voon Wai & Soo May Shin
IC No : XXXXXX-XX-XXXX & XXXXXX-XX-XXXX
Doctor : Haw Wan Lye
BIRTH PLAN (NATURAL)
chosen the Hypnobirthing method of quiet, relaxed and natural birth. Our
preferred birthing scenarios are listed as below. We have given careful
considerations to each specific request listed in this plan and this also
represents our wishes at this time. As labor ensues, we may choose to change
our thinking and we wish to feel free to do so.
understand that these preferred birthing scenarios presume a normal pregnancy
and birth. In the event of emergency occurrence that requires any medical
interventions, we are prepared to give our full cooperation after we are
provided with full and clear explanation of the medical need and given
sufficient time to discuss the decision between ourselves. We wish to have
clear explanations of all suggested procedures, of the progress of labor as it
is assessed, and of any possible special circumstances if they occur.
absence of special circumstances, we ask that the following requests to be
support is very much appreciated.
1.Whole birth process
a.Husband to be present
c.Only our doctor, nurses and
necessary medical personnel to be present
2.First stage labor
- Option of returning home unless in
- To stay hydrated by drinking clear
fluids instead of having IV drip
- The opportunity to discuss our
birth preferences with our assigned nurses/midwife.
- To consider artificial initiation
of labor only if labor is unusually delayed AND there is medical urgency.
- Artificial induction of labor
after the release of membranes is not considered UNLESS there is medical
- Quiet with dimmed light
- Closed door at all times
- Read/listen to music/watch TV as
distraction if labor is prolonged
- Change positions for comfort and
progress in labor
- Freedom to walk and move as long
as no risks are involved
- To wear my glasses as long as I do
not need a c-section
- Fluids and light food if labor is
- Intermittent rather than
continuous EFM with Doppler or manual use of EFM after the mandatory strip at
e.Pain relief option
- No suggestion of anesthetics/analgesics
- To be fully apprised &
consulted before introduction of any medical procedure
- No Pitocin/Amniotomy without
- To be augmented only if necessary
- To be kept minimal; with
permission to avoid premature release of membranes and reduce chances of
3.Second stage labor
of mother-directed Birth-Breathing to facilitate the descent of baby to
crowning instead of directed pushing.
progress free of stringent time limit if there is no risks involved.
of movement & changing the birth positions to allow optimal birth
conditions & aid in the ease of the baby’s descent through the birth canal
- Episiotomy only if necessary and
only after consultation; Local anesthesia.
- Local anesthesia for repair of
- Prefer use of suction device
rather than forceps if medically necessary
- Wait until cord stop pulsating
before it’s clamped & cut
- Immediate skin-to-skin contact,
with baby placed on mother’s stomach/chest
- No wrapping of baby
- Thermal blanket to cover both
mother and baby
- No bulb suction unless medically
- Allow vernix to be absorbed into
- Baby to remain with parents at all
times after birth
- Time for bonding with baby and
attempt to breastfeed with breast crawl and direct latch method within the
first two hours after birth.
- Breastfeeding only. No bottle,
- No vaccination to be administered
- If any test to be conducted, it
must be with our consent & preferably to be carried out in maternity ward
with the presence of parents.
4.Third stage labor
- Spontaneous or encouraged with
breast stimulation and nursing baby
- No cord traction, Syntometrine or
manual removal of placenta unless there is evidence of excessive postpartum
我们准备好迎接宝宝了，但她的花销还维持在三位数：尿布，衣服，被单，cloth detergent，top to toe organic wash，nappy liners…
Steve Jobs也说过，So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future。 过去的点必定会和现在这个点连接起来，然后铺排着去未来的点。我一直相信，单纯的只是相信，存有怀疑时也重复相信。